tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542108120359675711.post5888144952127180499..comments2023-06-04T05:43:05.832-07:00Comments on Red Mojo Mama Musings: The Rules - RevisitedKathy Lynn Hallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15776248628873347107noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542108120359675711.post-20537620695053787502012-12-02T11:39:27.807-08:002012-12-02T11:39:27.807-08:00Thanks for posting a comment - and in such detail!...Thanks for posting a comment - and in such detail! I was so surprised not to have more people comment - whether in agreement or not. I agree with you on all points and heartily with the last one - that marriage is the best thing that ever happens to most guys. Once married, I think most men like marriage and seem to remarry must faster than woman (anecdotal evidence only).<br /><br />Anyway - it is very interesting to look at things from the 10,000 foot view age gives you. Nice to meet you.Kathy Lynn Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15776248628873347107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542108120359675711.post-42045461330246250192012-12-02T09:12:50.767-08:002012-12-02T09:12:50.767-08:00stumbled across your blog inadvertently while winn...stumbled across your blog inadvertently while winnowing out twitter traffic. actually like all of them. this one got my attention. i've heard of the 'rules' book you're writing about. your take on it from the viewpoint of your 'advanced' age and experiences with men is very interesting and i'm sure will cause you to drop several points in the estimation of younger women. from the standpoint of an older male who still appreciates women, this is a fascinating topic. the funny thing is virtually every generation thinks they invented sex and romance and relationships and beyond that they can do it BETTER than those old fogeys from whose loins they sprang. remember, old people don't know anything.<br /><br />there are some simple truths that never change. men will chase. the harder they have to work for a woman, assuming she sends out some kind of signal that she's ultimately available, the more they will want her.<br /><br />having a woman make the first move always warms a man's heart - and other places - but it is a very self confident man that doesn't have a thought somewhere in the back of his mind :"if she put herself out to me, how many other guys has she gone after - or is she still going after". I know. caveman stuff. but guys think that way.<br /><br />same way - calling and going after a guy - making the first call after a date - is regarded by young women as no big deal and i'm sure young men feel the same way. but, it will lessen the way in which a man looks at a woman. not in big ways, significant ways, but it's there. and the harder women chase, almost every guy is going to retreat. Once he's had sex with her.<br /><br />And I know I will be crucified for this, but the truth is that women are made and built to bear children and marriage came about as a way to make sure men didn't spread their seed as men are wont to do and then leave the mother alone to raise their offspring. <br /><br />no rule is universal. millions of women of course won't. they don't want children. or they'll have them and they'll divorce or raise children as single moms, but history and biology can't be denied. and a lot of women in their 20s who think that's all crap and enjoy having a lot of men, will wake up one morning in their 30s and realize from out of nowhere they've become their mothers and want that life. With the ability to work, and with supportive spouses, but they want the rugrats.<br /><br />And, men for the most part don't look forward to and fantacize about marriage the way most (maybe only a lot) of women do. we don't dream of the weddings. we don't dream of little toddlers running to us with arms outstretched. we just don't. so most men in some sense have to be manipulated or cajoled into walking down that aisle.<br /><br />that doesn't change the fact that marriage is the best thing that ever happens to most guys, even if the marriages fail. they give us children and bonds drop-by daddies never achieve. marriage gives emotional rewards that i believe most men never know they want until they realize what they have.<br /><br />anyway, good blog. <br />Daniel Quentin-Steelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00976952821346574617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542108120359675711.post-66527475200474537512012-10-15T14:59:34.481-07:002012-10-15T14:59:34.481-07:00LOL - Ardee-ann, I can always count on you to be y...LOL - Ardee-ann, I can always count on you to be yourself! I guess that's the truth for me, too. After all, this book was written for women who wanted to get married, and that was never my goal. But I found myself surprised at how true so much of what they wrote seemed to be.<br /><br />Thanks for stopping, my friend.Kathy Lynn Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15776248628873347107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542108120359675711.post-56665001194892475592012-10-15T14:01:09.922-07:002012-10-15T14:01:09.922-07:00Kathy, I always broke all of the rules and then so...Kathy, I always broke all of the rules and then some. I will admit that I seldom "cold called" a guy I was interested in or dating but I did return phone calls. As for the other rules well let's just say that I am more interested in being me than in finding a guy. If I can't be me then I don't want to be in a relationship. <br /><br />Cheers,<br /><br />Ardee-annRamblingWordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03531030521466418144noreply@blogger.com